Have you ever had something you wanted to do but found the biggest resistance was not from your friends, or your family but from your own mind?
I recently found myself in a deep conversation that I rarely have. In this conversation I heard one point of view and then I would simply say, “That’s not true.” Next, I’d hear another potentially convincing story and because it was more convincing I had to call it out and say, “Shut up.” After that there seemed to be a stream of more assertive statements like an attorney presenting her closing argument.
Then I made the choice, a powerful one. I chose to be quiet and just listen.
What I heard was a series of statements about what “might” happen, what could happen, what I needed to be aware of and on and on.
Does this sound familiar to you? Have you noticed the quality of your inner chatter when you make a commitment to something new: to increase your revenue, to expand your networking circle, to change your eating practice, to live in your greatness or step into living fiscally responsible?
It’s really interesting and somewhat fascinating when you can be present to the chatter and witness what is being said. When you can, you have to wonder sometimes, whose side are you on – as it relates to “your “ own mind. You’d think it would be on your side, right? Here’s the key, it’s only on your side when you make it your servant by questioning it and even at times, challenging its validity.
In my book, Let’s Get You Happy First, Part 3, Chapter 5, “Think About It…Deliberately” I walk you through this practice in greater detail. But when you follow these four steps it will give you a new story and script to program your mind to be in greater alignment with your intention and goals.
Here’s something fun to do, record the statements of your inner chatter. Yep. Record it. Just so you can hear, from a distance, what was being said to you! Grab your phone and record…my mind is telling me bla, bla, bla…otherwise,
- Write down what you hear your Verizon network saying to you for two days.
- Then ask yourself, if it’s true?
- Next, ask yourself, do I believe this?
- After that flip the script (it’s old and outdated) and write your own powerful statements that are in alignment with what you have made your commitment to.
In the end it goes back to a book that was out back in the day… be your own best friend. And the last time I checked, when we support our friends and when we help them, we say kind, supportive and compassionate words to them, even when we’re holding them accountable. They may not like what you say, but they know you are on their side.
Well, treat yourself as you would your good friend… be on your own side.
To Your Wholistic Wealth